What does it feel like to have labor pain?
Labor pain or contractions as you may call it – this is probably a question every pregnant woman has in her mind. So did I when I was expecting. And so did a lot of my friends and members of the family.
Labor pain is definitely not something that women can’t endure. Our bodies were always meant to do this and women have been doing it for centuries. Our bodies surpass the abilities of male bodies. We create life, help it grow inside us and then nurture it for the rest of our lives.
In the end labor pain is all in the mind.
My experience with labor pain
In my experience, given the pain one has to endure, giving birth seems like the hardest thing for many moms and it is indeed true. But for me, it was a positive experience, something that I’d do all over again.
Labor pain for me was like something I had (obviously) never experienced before. It was a pain like no other. It worsened when I was 6-7 cm dilated and the intensity kept building up after that. I mostly had a back labor which many people say is the worst form of labor pain. I remember asking my husband and mother in law to keep rubbing my back the hardest they could. At one point I even held my husband’s hand so tight I swear I could’ve broken it.
The hardest part was pushing though. I could literally feel my female parts were going to tear the hell out. But the good thing was that it was a very natural response of my body to push. More than me it was my body that was doing the pushing itself. My labor lasted 10 hours and the outcome of it was just beautiful.
What mommies have to say
Is the pain bearable? Is it excruciating? How long does it last? I asked a few mommies to describe what the experience of labor pain was like to them and here is what they had to say –
Let alone it being the toughest thing that I have been through, labor pain was confusing as much as it was exhausting. All the Google look ups and past experiences are useless. You just don’t know what you are going to be in, until you are in it. It felt like getting all your bones broken at the same time. 14 hours in labor and I realized that I had been pushing hard the wrong way. As amusing as it sounds, it was only when I was directed the right way did I have my little one out after 16 hours. And I felt free and healthy to walk my way to the first floor of the nursing home, because the lift decided to conk off.
– Rishu, 32
Labor, for me, wasn’t so bad. It lasted only about 8 hours, 3 of which I didn’t even know about. I reached the hospital and I was already 3 cm dilated and I only realized how bad it was when I was 5 cm. I thought an epidural would be better but I kept saying to myself that it is only a matter of time. It was not as if I was going to die! The pain was the worst during pushing when it felt like an extremely strong bowel movement. The moment I held my little baby in my arms, it was as if the pain was never there.
– Abhilasha, 29
People say that labor pain feels like strong menstrual cramps and I thought it was rubbish. The pain that I felt was mostly vaginal. It was as if everything was going to tear apart. My contractions lasted 18 hours and boy was I glad it was over.
– Kanika, 29
The worst pain I remember was when my boy’s head was crowning. Other than that labor was pretty much bearable. My body was doing the pushing itself and I thought it was amazing what women bodies are capable of doing. They just know what they have to do.
– Meenal, 30
I struggled from beginning till the end. I did not know when was the time to push so I pushed at all the wrong times making my contractions even worse. It was only after I was actually told how and when to push did I get it right. But by that time I was only 10 minutes away from holding my baby. You just have to know then when’s and how’s of pushing. This will make your experience better.
– Kavita, 33
My labor was not as bad as everyone says it is. Even though I was in labor for good 18 hours. It just got better when I had the epidural. And I’m so glad I took it.
– Meher, 30
The contractions started late evening n my baby girl was delivered at around 7 in the morning. They started as an ache in the middle of my back n grew in intensity progressively. Unlike the usual distribution of pain in back, abdomen n thighs mine remained concentrated in the back.
It was only in the last few hours that the pain grew intense and the duration between contractions reduced. There was enough time between contractions to recover and catch my breath. The last few were accompanied by an uncontrollable urge to push almost like passing motion. Breathing exercises n massage helped a lot. The pain was intense but not unbearable.
– Reeva, 40
They say you forget the pain of childbirth… this is crazy! I am very aware of the ordeal of birthing a small human and the pain that accompanied it! However, the unconditional love that you feel for your baby outweighs any pain. My labour was, in the grand scheme of things, relatively easy, I was only in 6 hours of active labour. Still, I screamed louder decibels than I even knew I was capable of. My contractions started around the front and felt like really strong period pains, they eventually moved to my back where they felt like unbearable back spasms. I intended to have only gas and air, but about half way through I opted for the pethidine injection, which really helped ease the intense pains.
Although I said I wouldn’t put myself through that again, being a mummy to this perfect little thing has given me purpose. So it perhaps wouldn’t be the worst thing in the world if I was to fall pregnant again 🙂
– Bianca, 26 @ thebhivelifestyleblog.com
So how has your experience of labor pain been like? Is it something you’d do all over again or not at all?